- Will you marry with someone who is obese?
- Will you marry with someone who is midget (dwarf)?
- Will you marry with someone who is deaf?
- Will you marry with someone who is blind?
- Will you marry with someone who does not have one arm?
- Will you marry with someone who does not have one arm and legs?
- Will you marry with someone whose lower part of body has paralysed?
- Will you marry with someone who gets HIV?
- Will you marry with someone who is mental retarded?
- Will you marry with criminal?
- Will you marry with someone who is poor and uneducated?
同学的答案各异,老师,也算是一个社会学家,就断定社会是以貌取人的,外表很重要。
第一个问题时,有同学说她会嫁给超标的胖男人因为她注重的是内在。可是第二个问题时,她却说no. 老师说:[咦?你不是说外表不重要的吗?既然你说了如此,就要包括那些regardless. ]
当然,班上的同学各有自己选择的辩词。
当时我只是凭着直觉走;答了:
- No
- No
- yes
- yes
- yes
- yes
- yes
- No
- No
- yes
- yes
当时我的答案是自相矛盾的。
第三到第四我答yes, 我会觉得我想保护他,因为爱上对方其中一个原因就是那出于莫名的感觉想保护他,是我对爱情的定义。是同情的爱情?我不知道。
第五到第七我答yes, 前提是我已经跟对方交往了,之后很不幸发生车祸(coi, coi, coi a...),如果是嫌弃对方的残缺,就这样放弃人家,太没仁义,之前爱的承诺只是口头飘,哪说得上你是真正的爱他呢?
第十和第十一我答yes, 除了强奸犯,其他的还能接受,只要他是性本善的。穷和没受过教育,不是他的错而是以生俱来没有那种机会,不应该视为婚姻条件。
我自认我还小,不知何谓“爱”更别说谈婚论嫁了。在那一刹那的决定我只用“想像将来的自己”如何会或不会接受对方。过后仔细想,我会这么伟大吗?
换过来,如果是我遭遇以上的不幸人家会接受我吗?
这是社会学,没对和错,只是告诉你:what is happening in the world.